One of the more daunting tasks in planning your big day is collaborating with your husband-to-be and compiling a list of candidates to make the cut of wedding guests; and then, together, narrowing the list. This can be touchy, because you know your mother will be mortified if your third cousin twice removed and her new husband (and his kids) aren’t invited; and your fiancé has made up his mind that his college football team should all be on the wedding guest roster.
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From invitations to wedding and reception venues and catering, the size of the guest list largely affects the cost of your wedding. Whether it is that you know that a smaller wedding is what your budget allows, or you desire a more intimate environment with 50 guests, it’s hard to deal with the idea of hurting the feelings of so many people you love by leaving them out of your wedding day.
If you’re having a big wedding, what is your reason for keeping so many guests? If you’re going to have to sell your plasma to pay your catering bill, it better be because you’ve dreamt of the crowd, not because you would feel guilty leaving anyone out.
Another option, if you can’t decide, is to have your big wedding, and invite a much smaller number of people to your reception. There may still be some hurt feelings, but everyone will get to see you and your groom exchange vows; and you get the intimate reception with a significantly smaller catering bill and a group small enough you won’t be swallowed by it. This infographic from the Knot presents a great thought process:
Your big day is just that, YOUR big day. You share it with the people you want to, and will treasure the memories forever. Consider who exactly it is you want to share the memories with, on that day, and make your decision accordingly!
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